Contentment ...If you looked at the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you would feel? Do you think you would feel better as a result? We all seem to do this at one time or another and some more than others, resulting in a plummet in self-confidence and a recipe for unhappiness.
It’s a negative thought that usually has no positive outcome.
“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.” ~ Marquis de Condorcet
Ever heard the phrase “let’s compare apples with apples” - well that makes sense but comparing “apples with oranges” does not! They are different, neither one being better than the other. So it is the same for people, we don’t have the same parents, live the same life or have the same opportunities, so why compare to each other, it simply makes no sense.
Let’s say, I look at someone who creates wonderful artwork … and I look at my art and skills, and realize that I don’t have the same level of talent. In fact by comparison, I look pretty pitiful. Well if art is the only measure of a persons talent then yes, but the measure of any person is much, much more.
And that’s so important — being able to look at your own strengths, and see your true value. It’s actually one of the keys to success, because without this skill, you will be unmotivated, and won’t believe in yourself.
“Why is it so hard to live without comparing yourself to others?”
While it’s natural to make comparisons, an unhealthy view leaves you unhappy, even when you have a good life, marriage/relationship, and family. The comparisons make you begin to question what you already have.
As we get older, the desire to reflect on one's life is a natural phenomenon BUT to constantly compare yourself with those that are more successful, wealthier, more talented, better educated, more widely travelled have kids that are seemly more successful, etc.. etc. etc. is as silly are comparing 'apples with oranges'!
Tell yourself, “Stop!” And then start thinking about all the things you DO have, the things you love, the people you have, the blessings that life has given you. Make this a regular practice, and you’ll start to be more positive about life. You will be more able to take on new challenges, become involved and be a little happier with YOUR LIFE!
...and remember...have a fabulous retirementLIFE....
